April 20, 2010

  • Gay Fail

    Sam, the Xangan formerly known as wherethefishlives, recently came out and he has already told his mom and snagged himself the perfect man. I, on the other hand, have been out for almost 5 years and have done neither. I really suck at being gay. I feel like a straight guy stuck in a gay man's body, an outcast among outcasts. I can't turn straight, yet I can't seem to get this gay thing straight. *sigh* what to do...what to do...

Comments (28)

  • Maybe go back to the closet and re-come out?

  • poke at it some more, maybe that will get help get it "straighter"

  • Hooray, a new post finally!

    Everyone's coming out process is different and varies in length. You'll figure it out. Trust me, if you had asked me seven or eight months ago about my situation, I probably would have crawled under a rock and told you to go away. I never EVER thought I would be where I am today.

  • You just gotta be straight up with the folks. Even if it means they will be pissed off or whatnot, you can't keep this charade up.

    -ray leeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

  • my friend liked girls before, then he liked guys, eventually, he learned that he liked both... Don't know if this is any help

  • Honesty heals the soul. I hope you can do it. And as far as finding the perfect partner, it's hard for all people straight gay or bisexual, so don't feel too alone. <3

  • go do some gay porn, can't go back after that

  • =/

    *shrugs*

  • You also fail at posting to Xanga. You submitted this twice! Did you get to check out the gay guys here in Vancouver?

  • Asian parents make everything harder. *hugs. I hope you work it all out <3

  • awwww you'll get good at it eventually! :)

  • just wear a tshirt with the words saying you're gay and leave it at that

  • If only you were Filipino. Filipino parents wouldn't be mad or upset if they found out you were gay. But if they found out you're a vegetarian they might disown you.

  • @My_notes_to_self - 

    I KNOW! something about filipinos and their open mindedness.

    you'll be fine my dear. i think you make a wonderful gay guy!

  • Give me their emails and I'll tell your folks for you.

  • aww Wuwu, if you come here, i can introduce you to SO many!!

  • You need to fly to London and marry Whonose!

  • LOL!!! SAM is wherethefishlives?? that funny smartass? what the fuck?? really???? i feel so ignorant lol. granted i didnt read him religiously but i have a few times; i didn't recognize his face from his photos. he looks kinda different. or maybe im just losing my effing memory. damn it, i used to be so good with faces... shit shit shit!

    as for you, my dear, didnt you say that your parents are in denial? doesn't that mean that they know? i guess it's different for you to actually come out and say it to them tho huh? in due time, bro. when it's right you'll do it.

  • I agree with Sam, everybodies process is different and take a different amount of time. If it is any consolation, I spent many years sucking at being straight, then I sucked at being bi for a few years, followed by a year or so of sucking at being gay... (good news is, I am doing really well at being trans!)

  • i'll be your beard. i have a walk in closet.

  • Just go to West Hollywood on a Friday or Saturday night and realize that you're not alone being in your skin hehe

  • It would be hard to tell family... I think so anyways.
    Hm. I was reading a few posts back. I read the one about your mom trying to set you up. Maybe say that line to her the next time she tries to set you up!! That would work...

  • I know how you feel. That's not much consolation, though. I know that too. You are not alone, brother, you are not alone.

  • it's better to be open about it to your parents... even if you're unsure, just let them know how you're feeling. you can't bottle this up forever, so might as well just let it all out. hope everything works out for you, man.

  • Try Miami! Or Toronto! Different BROES in different area codes! HAHA :)

  • Hehe, "bad at being gay." that's so silly

  • Can't help you with the boyfriend thing but don't think about the parents...just do it. I told everyone in my life including my parents the first week I came out and never had to do it again or had to look back. If you keep good company, people will understand and let you be you. Screw the others. If you parents truly love you, they will also understand. Most parents know anyways.

  • He is cute though... I'm not surprised, maybe you need to make it a big deal and meet people
    I miss him

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